Sharing: What is Success anyway?

This is a wonderful, encouraging piece.   I love Alice’s definition of success as “a sense of self, ego, and happiness all intertwined”.  I especially admire her position of optimistic realism, or maybe realistic optimism, whichever you prefer.  An excellent read, from a fantastic blog, of a terrific person! ๐Ÿ™‚


  1. Its a good piece, and….I’ve written and rewritten this reply so many times, i just cant put in to words what I mean. I have no idea what I want, I dont know what I’m good at, I was an utter failure education wise, have no ambition and didnt/dont know what I wanted to do in life. I had silly pipe dreams that were impossible (and I mean impossible) and had my head in fantasies my whole life (I told the careers guidance I wanted to be a gypsy FFS, I think it was my Toad of Toad Hall moment in life!). I wouldnt even know where to begin with success. I give up on things or dont even get started, and I know all the reasons why, I suppose i always hoped I wouldnt be me in the end.

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    1. Oh, my dear friend โค๏ธ I can feel your frustration, almost a hopelessness? Rarely can (and rarely will) I say “I know what you mean”, but I think I might. I have felt exactly what you described. I changed university majors eight times. I had no direction, no clue what I wanted to do.

      You have excellent interests, though ๐Ÿ˜Š. And in these interests, may be latent gifts/skills. Astrology could be one of them! You’re talented there, and the knowledge can be built even further, more easily these days ๐Ÿ˜Š

      People change entire careers every 7 years, says the statistic. That tells me that there might be unrest in the general population, a desire for a calling, and/or a confusion.

      My friend got a degree in accounting, and another in Spanish. She worked in various accounting jobs until she found it too stressful and gave out. She was fatigued. It turns out that she has Lyme Disease. She’s now leaving the field of accounting altogether and pursuing a path of gaining knowledge in the therapeutic use of foods and herbs, and she’s also becoming a Lyme awareness advocate in her community.

      That’s just an example of how things change ๐Ÿ˜Š. My aim in giving that example is to illuminate how even people who look like they have a plan and a path, who seem to have it all figured out, can still change and find themselves at Square One, starting over again.

      Personally I’ve worked construction (awesome), fairground carnival gypsy (stressful but fun!), mall retail (ugh), cocktail waitressing (ugh), massage therapist (ups and downs), fast food (meh), astrology (dabbled; fun!), and now a holistic physician (ups and downs, but the ups are really cool). Some people make money from home with their blog, others get involved with “secret shopping” for various companies, and so on ๐Ÿ’œ

      Your path does not end here ๐Ÿ˜˜. It might twist and turn, and it may be quite scenic or boring at times. But every day is a new journey. I have full faith in you, that you’ll find something you love, even if that’s editing papers for college kids or photography or what-have-you ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’–๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿ’–


      1. I feel a bit of a useless lump in comparison to all you’ve done! My previous work was administration and book keeping which I kind of fell into, not out of interest but just something I did. TBH I was bored 99% of the time and I dont miss it at all. I dont need to work thankfully, but Ive never ever really known what I want to do with my life. Most of it has been spent trying to survive, or escape via music/film/books, and thats about it. I envy those who find their calling, because I havent a clue. I have my interests but they arent vocational, and I have no skills as such (one of the things I dislike most about myself). It took 40 years and too much wasted money to realise I’m a TERRIBLE student, usual learning method just doesnt work for me. I think this hopelessness as you rightly put it is one of my main big hurdles in life. Because of past stuff, I always feel like I have to prove I’m worth something, that I’m worth living, but have failed so far. I hate this part of myself the most, I hate how I sound, I hate that I cant seem to change it.

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        1. Awww ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’. I really feel for you, my lovely! You’re SO *not* a useless lump, I promise ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’–. The usual learning method is overrated and I have to admit, I really struggled with it. I learn by videos and diagrams – they wanted to teach by Power Point with too many words on the page/slide! Ugh. ๐Ÿ˜–. It’s tough feeling stuck in a rut; I can definitely relate to that! But seriously, there’s an answer out there for each person, rest assured. Shit, the guy who started the Wendy’s fast food chain did so at age 65 ๐Ÿ˜Š. There’s plenty of time ๐Ÿ’“. The most important thing is, if you don’t *have* to work (that’s awesome!), not to settle; I think it’s better to wait until you come across something that you really like, that fills your heart โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’ž


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