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Tag: judgment

4 words never to say to me

“Excuses are for losers.” Unfortunately, those are my father’s favorite words.  And he loves to toss them around, even when … More

accusations, aspergers, aspie, autism, autistic, blame, effort, excuses, judgment, losers, perception, understanding

*Hard*-functioning

Although the brilliant post by My Dream Walden is short and sweet, it’s powerful; it says it all. The general … More

aspergers, aspie, autism, career, ethics, expectations, function labels, functioning, job, judgment, medical professionals, meltdowns, mental health professionals, misconceptions, shutdowns

Not ‘passing’ doesn’t mean ‘failing’

Over the past year and a quarter-ish, I’d been experiencing a lot of “first”s–the first time doing “this” or “that” … More

authenticity, autism, autism acceptance, autistic, career, disclosure, exhaustion, identity, impairment, interaction, judgment, perception, self-esteem

(My) Asperger’s / autism and trust 

Once upon a time, I trusted everyone.  The cashier at the grocery store was the perfect audience for a monologue … More

ActuallyAutistic, aspergers, autistic, cautious, distrust, honesty, interaction, judgment, rejection, trust issues, trust no one

Dear World: please withhold / reserve judgment. Thank you ~ one autistic person

Despite my attempts to be a no-frills, drama-free queen, what some see is not always what they get.  In my … More

accommodation, aspergers, assumptions, autism acceptance, autistic, criticism, energy, exhaustion, fatigue, insecurity, judgment, misconceptions, self-acceptance

I tried to be cool

At first, it wasn’t like that.  In kindergarten (both years, for me), nobody really understands the concept of “cool”, so … More

autism, autistic, bullying, fake, fitting in, identity, judgment, peer pressure, reflection, school, self-esteem, social awkwardness

Jumping to assumptions

As I journey further up (not down) my personal Asperger’s/autism spectrum discovery path, I’ve come to view human nature in … More

ActuallyAutistic, aspie, assumptions, introvert, judgment, misinterpretation, misunderstanding, online community, perception, self-consciousness, self-doubt, self-expression

(My) Asperger’s / autism and resentment

I reached a horrifying realization a few weeks ago… Please bear with me as I explain the backstory, a backstory … More

ActuallyAutistic, aspergers, autistic, criticism, embarrassment, frustration, judgment, relationships, resentment, self-care, self-esteem, self-help, singled out

“Coming out” to friends and family as Asperger’s / autistic

(Beginning note: I’m don’t mean the term/concept of “coming out” to be inappropriate or marginalizing in any way toward the … More

autism acceptance, autism spectrum disclosure, autistic adult, autistic partner, autistic wife, coming out, disclosure, family, family dynamics, friends, judgment, my friend is autistic, neurotypical parents

Because I can’t

“Why can’t you just meet with someone later today?” Because I can’t. “Why not?” (Me): … (Painfully rearranging my schedule … More

anxiety, aspergers, autistic adult, awkward, disability, employment, judgment, resentment, self-conscious, self-defense, self-employment, shutdown, social anxiety, workplace

What happens when you say “no way–you can’t be autistic”

Saying “you can’t be autistic…!” can lead to devastating consequences. These include a dismissal of our true identity and a separation from our community.

advice, autism acceptance, autism disclosure, autistic adult, coming out, dismissal, educational, etiquette, friendship, information, judgment, understanding

So … about that Asperger’s / autism self-diagnosis poll…

As many of you know (and are probably trying to forget right now–sorry about that), I set up a poll on … More

alienation, aspergers, aspie, autism spectrum community, debate, disagreement, exclusion, friendship, identity, inclusion, judgment, online poll, ostracism, self-diagnosis, self-diagnosis is valid, survey

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